Every action we take is powered by our underlying intentions. Sometimes we are very conscious of our intentions, but most often what truly motivates us to do (or: not do) something slumbers somewhere deep in the folds of our subconscious.
As black women we sometimes suffer a debilitating disconnect from what we truly desire and strive for in our lives in favor of conflicting expectations and limiting stereotypes that are heaped upon us externally. Just as our immediate circumstances may seem to have stacked the proverbially cards of life against some of us, so – too – does the “box” we’ve been placed inside. Whether that box has been constructed by our community, mainstream society or the media, it often puts who we are supposed to be at odds with who we are.
The Result: Many of us find ourselves rotating on life’s hamster wheel, feeling more and more disoriented and dissatisfied because we’re chasing after what others have told us to seek instead listening to – and trusting! – that small inner voice that speaks for our True Self.
When you are assessing your life and developing the necessary strategies and plans to improve it, it’s essential to get back in touch with your own deep and authentic intentions.
What’s your “why”?
While you are thinking about the areas of your life in which you’d like to see movement/progress/change in the coming year, reflect on the following questions:
- Is your life in need of a major transformation or are you simply eager to take it to the next level?
- Was the vision of life you are moving towards born out of your own innate values and vision? Or are you hoping to live up to what those around you (family, spouse/partner, friends) feel is “right”?
- How will it impact your life – and your belief in yourself – if you don’t change anything?
To get a better feel for where your energy and time went in 2010 – and to decide where you will need to invest those valuable resources in 2011 – download the “Wheel of Life” worksheets and chart your resource allotment for 2011.