Monthly Archives: July 2010

TableTalk (Part 3): Postponed

Ladies,

Just a quick note to inform you that, because I am on the road today, I unfortunately cannot ensure that I will be back in time for tonight’s TableTalk. Instead the date has been moved to

5 August 2010

Sorry for any inconvenience. I hope to touch bases with as many of you as possible next Thursday!

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Affirmations: Powerful Conversations with Ourselves (8)

TODAY: I make a pact to support and encourage myself – for the long haul.

I realize that no one will give me the life that I want. Only I can do that. And I will!

~

In my intro text for this site I mention how few and far between the role models are for women of African descent living and working in Europe. That’s why an article written by Tara Sophia Mohr on HuffPo – “10 Rules For Brilliant Women” – really struck a chord with me.  And I asked myself: “How do these 10 rules translate to gain relevancy in the lives of women of African descent?” In the coming 10 weeks I’ll be sharing my own spin on those 10 rules with all of you.

During the TableTalks my panelists and I talked about “critical mass”. The fact that – compared to the US – there still aren’t enough people of African descent in European countries to easily ensure the kind of presence and representation we need to actively counteract stereotypes and general lack of knowledge about us. (Mind you, I said it can’t be done as easily, not that it couldn’t be done at all!)

Here’s why having role models that look like us is so important:

  • …they give us the courage to dream and aspire to something bigger and better than “common wisdom” has taught us to expect for ourselves!  Not “up in the sky, by and by”, but here and now!
  • …they show us that it can be done! Whether it’s publishing a book, getting a promotion or simply having a fulfilling relationship with partners and our communities.
  • …they help others to have as much faith in our dreams and aspirations as we do ourselves! Seeing is believing – so the more (often) people see us successfully navigating the straits of our lives, the sooner barriers of ignorance and malevolence will crumble.

But there is nothing a role model can do for you, if you are not willing to do for yourself – first!

So, starting today, make that conscious step to say “yes” to yourself.

  • Yes to your values and goals and strengths.
  • Yes to your history and accomplishments and dreams.
  • And – most importantly – yes to the journey you’ve chosen for yourself!

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Recording: Afro-Europe

My thanks go out to Lillian Ogbogoh (UK) and Leticia Pereira dos Santos (I) for their participation in last night’s TableTalk round. Some last minute changes, as well as technical snafus, saw me spending most of the evening talking with Lillian (something I love to do anyway…); Leticia joined us via live chat towards the end of the session. Still and all we covered some interesting ground and took a stab at discussion a topic or two that – I admit – are difficult to broach. Thanks, too, the my online guests, who – with the questions and comments – gave us plenty of food for thought (as well as some new email contacts and Facebook friends!)

Here are some of the topics we covered:

  • How do you self-identify?
  • How do you experience “community” amongst other people of African descent where you live?
  • How is that sense of “community” expressed in different places in the Diaspora?
  • How does the question of “critical mass” influence the lives of people of African descent where you live?
  • What role does day-to-day racism play in your life?
  • How well-represented are people of African descent in public life?
  • What importance was placed on knowledge of Black/African History during your upbringing?
  • What can we do to empower children of African descent living in Europe?

If you were not able to listen in live last night, here is a link to the recording of “No, where do you really come from?” (see: On Demand Episodes)

It’s another long recording – again almost two whole hours. To listen to shorter topical segments, check back under the “TableTalk: The Virtual Round-Table” page.

Once again: Thanks to my panelists and thanks to all the ladies tuning in!

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Reminder: Afro-Europe – Today @ 7.30pm CET // 1.30pm EST

  • Event: Afro-European or “No, where are you really from?”
  • Date: 22 July 2010
  • Time: 7.30pm CET // 1.30pm EST
  • Duration: Approx. 90 minutes
  • Dial-in: +1-646-716-7671 (Dial in to be a part of the live conversation!)
  • URL: http://tinyurl.com/39zooqa  (Listen via internet and ask questions via live chat option!)
  • There are two ways to listen to/participate in this event:

    1. Simply dial-in using the number listed above. By using this number, you also have the opportunity to share your own thoughts and experiences, as well as ask our guests questions, during that part of the session when the line is open. As this is a conference line in the US (and this is a longer call), if you prefer this option, I highly recommend using a long-distance discount prefix to make the call as price efficient as possible.

    2. Just click the session page URL to listen to this event via the internet. Using the live chat option, you will be able to ask questions and make comments directly from your computer during the session.

    Thanks for your support!

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    Affirmations: Powerful Conversations with Ourselves (7)

    TODAY: I will listen to good music!


    I will sing along (out loud!) if I want, and maybe dance a little all by myself if the spirit moves me!

    ~~

    This is so self-explanatory there isn’t much left for me to say. Fire up your iPod with some new songs! Pump up the volume on the radio another notch! Pull out your favorite old-school jams and let the rhythm and the melody, the harmony and the lyrics, put wings on your heart and allow your Spirit to soar!

    Warning: The effect of this “medicine” increases exponentially when the experience is shared with a friend!

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    Recording: The Expat Talks

    Last night’s first TableTalk – The Expat Talks – was a complete joy! Carolyn Vines (whose new book is called “Black and (A)Broad”), Love Newkirk, Harolynne Bobis and (calling in with wisdom and advice from Arizona) Celeste Blackwell shared their eclectic experiences and insights from their lives as Black American women living and working abroad.

    Here is a brief list of just some of the topics we covered:

    • What motivated your move abroad and what do you do professionally?
    • How is your daily life impacted by the fact that you are a woman of color?
    • What special provisions do you make for hair and skin car?
    • How does the image of black women where you are compare/contrast with the image of black women in America?
    • How do you deal with the delicate topic of race in raising your children?
    • What’s the dating scene like for single black women?
    • How has being abroad influenced your view of America – incl. the black community in America?
    • How has living and working abroad influenced your own sense of identity as a black woman?
    • What advice would you give to black women considering a move (or simply extended travel) abroad?

    If you were not able to listen in live last night, here is a link to the recording of “What’s a nice (Black American) girl like you doing in a place like this?

    Because the time seemed to fly (yes, we were all having fun!) it is a long recording – almost two whole hours! That’s why, in the upcoming week, I’ll be editing a series of shorter topical segments and posting them – as well as the complete recording – under the “TableTalk: The Virtual Round-Table” page.

    Once again: Thanks to my panelists and thanks to all the ladies tuning in!

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    Reminder: The Expat Talks — Today @ 7.30pm CET // 1.30pm EST

  • Event: The Expat Talks or “What’s a nice (Black) American girl like you doing in a place like this?”
  • Date: 15 July 2010
  • Time: 7.30pm CET // 1.30pm EST
  • Duration: Approx. 90 minutes
  • Dial-in: +1-646-716-7671 (Dial in to be a part of the live conversation!)
  • URL: http://j.mp/bXsQZx (Listen via internet and ask questions via live chat option!)
  • Join me and my guests:

    There are two ways to listen to/participate in this event:

    1. Simply dial-in using the number listed above. By using this number, you also have the opportunity to share your own thoughts and experiences, as well as ask our guests questions, during that part of the session when the line is open. As this is a conference line in the US (and this is a longer call), if you prefer this option, I highly recommend using a long-distance discount prefix to make the call as price efficient as possible.

    2. Just click the session page URL to listen to this event via the internet. Using the live chat option, you will be able to ask questions and make comments directly from your computer during the session.

    Thanks in advance for helping to make this event a success!

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